So I've got an '04 V70 AWD with the sport package, which means 18" wheels and slightly lower profile tires.. I'm familiar with the aftermarket options for struts and springs - Koni, Bilstein etc., but I've been told these are actually a bit stiffer than the stock suspension. The car rides way to stiff for my tastes (in a family wagon anyway), and on the generally horrendous streets of new york city, the car feels really unsettled and harsh. Can any of the aftermarket struts/shocks be adjusted to calm down the feel, and are there any springs out there that are less hard than the stock ones?